"Oh the humanity"
A common phrase we often say as we express shock and dismay at, or as an outcry of appeal for people to empathize with us as we face, some heinous act that seems unbefitting of a human. What this neglects however is the fact that the ugly that prompted such an expression is also part of humanity.
We can't ignore hate out of existence or simply wish it wasn't among us.
We can't be oblivious, or naive, to its existence.
We must acknowledge it, identify it, understand it and then use the good that exists within our humanity to overcome, or marginalized, it. This is a constant that has existed and will forever continue to exist. A battle that is eternal.
To all the agents of positive change out there, don't be discouraged if your message falls on deaf ears or if you are fought against. Afterall, prophets and messengers faced far worse even though they had a divine message and were sent and supported by the divine.
In the Quran, God says
مَّا عَلَى الرَّسُولِ إِلَّا الْبَلَاغُ ۗ وَاللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ مَا تُبْدُونَ وَمَا تَكْتُمُونَ
Not upon the Messenger is [responsibility] except [for] notification. And Allah knows whatever you reveal and whatever you conceal.
Simply stated, a messenger is to notify although, in my opinion, the word "Notification" in the above translation sells the word الْبَلَاغُ short. The word الْبَلَاغُ means to deliver the message clearly and with eloquence.
So relieve yourself from the responsibility of changing hearts and minds and simply continue to share your message of love, peace and justice. Continue to share with eloquence and it will eventually soften the hardest of hearts.
To those who are not so religiously inclined, remember that your responsibility as a light is to simply shine regardless of how dark or bright the environment around may seem.
There is an alarming trend that I am noticing among those who want to justify their whatever-phobia, hatred, bigotry....etc.
An attack on and blame of "political correctness".
"If it wasn't for this PC bulls$&% such and such would've never happened"
"I would like to cast my fears, insecurities and hate on others because they are different than me"
Political correctness means to not alienate, offend or disadvantage a group of people within society on the basis of the way they choose to live their life, their economic status, skin color ...etc. now, some will mockingly say "will then why do we put criminals in jail? That's the way they chose to live their life and we need to be PC and respect that" and get a little grin on their face as they think to themselves "I sound wicked smart". Listen, once someone's rights infringe upon those of another (yours on theirs or theirs on yours) then there is no such a thing as PC in the eyes of the law.
The term, more often than not, is used to defend those who consider themselves in the category of "us" against whatever target of their hate/racism/bigotry might be. How? Go back to the example above, the ones that say "If it wasn't for this PC bulls$&% such and such would've never happened" would use this line of thinking after a brown/black/Muslim/Gay/other person does something criminal. They would not use that same line when a big, burley, supposed man hides behind a gun and waves it in the faces of those "other"
This work-life balance is a myth.
Actually, I think it is downright harmful.
It is a subtle yet dangerous trap because It gives the impression that you must balance everything else that we call life with work. It puts an undue burden on the individual as he/she tries to achieve this un-achievable goal.
In my humble opinion, everyone has a reward system and everyone must understand their reward system.
Your reward might be through work, promotion, raise....etc.
Your reward might be recognition or fame; It might be a particular individual or a divine entity. It might shift from time to time and place to place. The key is to understand your own reward system, with its pros and cons, and use it to your advantage. Reflect on what it is that makes you happy. What it is that you do without prompting, without being asked, without hesitation. Focus on that and work everything else around it.
That's how you achieve comfort in the imbalance that exists in each of our lives. That's how you can maintain yourself and maintain your sanity.
Of course, that is just my opinion
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