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Outcast

2/1/2020

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An outcast is defined as a person who has been rejected by society or a social group.
The definition does not state the reason behind such rejection nor does it assign any value, positive or negative, to such a status. It just defines a recipient of an action.


Such rejection however is almost always related to a perceived negativity or harm to the group from the individual who is ultimately rejected. Defiance of norms, questioning of long held views or scoffing at said group’s defining hallmarks, is typically grounds for executing such a sentence. And I fully appreciate and understand how this can be the outcome for someone who insists on defying a foundational truth held by the group (e.g. a Muslim rejecting monotheism) but what about the ones who are deemed societal rejects for defiance of a widely and systematically accepted practice that is fundamentally wrong (e.g. those who sought to end legalized racial discrimination)?

I am intrigued by the tug of war that must go on within the mind of the latter. I think that we, as humans, seek comfort or perhaps validation in numbers. “Everyone is doing it” is many times offered up as justification for accepting a norm that is wrong. I think it is ultimately easier and less taxing on the mind to have this sense of validation even if some doubt exists. So for someone to risk such comfort, to risk rejection and isolation is not an easy decision no matter how noble. Something is special about that “outcast” and I find myself asking the following questions

  • How does the aforementioned doubt become a principle?
  • At what point in the calculation, because let’s face it all of our actions are the result of a calculation, does the principle outweigh the comfort?
  • How do you handle the crushing isolation?
  • How do you remain steadfast upon your principle when in your outcast isolation you start to doubt your principle?

But most importantly to me is
  • How do we as a society keep a healthy level of doubt that keeps us in check?


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Dee
7/21/2022 01:12:48 pm

I simply enjoy your writing. DIB&E was excellent - the graphic, for those who are fighting the message, simplifies the overall process, aka the result that is necessary, for any people-system to move forward in real, tangible ways.

However, it is your article - 'Outcast', that motivates me to write to you - because that is my story.

I embrace the fact that I am today and have always been somewhat of an outcast. As a child, it was not by choice and it hurt deeply when pushed out of groups. Mainly because my intentions and motivations were healthy and good, but my power was small & it was easy to step on me. I didn't hurt people but I shared my viewpoints (no matter how often I got crushed) and as I earned more power I used it to have a stronger voice.

I have deeply held values that, like everyone else, change from time to time yet, I carry a set of constant values that were created in my childhood story. Love of my world citizen brothers & sisters no matter who they are or where they call home, acceptance of & curiosity around our differences - in every way, transparency - turning on the light when I can, compassion and empathy for everyone, fighting for those who need support, and leading by example - always.

Knowing that I am a person who maintains independence of my mindset, I openly invite other opinions. I can be influenced by other voices when my concerns are heard and considered (I don't have to have my way and don't expect to...) my focus is on 'doing the right thing' and not on 'being right'. The process pathway and how we build our bridge from where we are to where we want to be - in any situation (business or personal), is the key focus. However being rejected, can lose its sting if you are prepared for it!

So, yes, I have an answer to your question:
1) I expect it,
2) Because of that, I am prepared for it. Spiritually, physically, socially, where/ how I live (peacefully), and above all financially,
3) These experiences are rich, vibrant, and have left me with many stories to share with others as they find their strength and legs to stand up/ speak up to power.

When I met with a senior leadership teams, my conversation is honest and I am not afraid to discuss the uncomfortable topics - I already know the worst that can happen and I'm ok with those odds. My viewpoint is that if you like me, that's great! It is the real me that you like! And if you don't like me, that's great! It is the real me that you don't like.

So...who is winning? If the race is physical, then maybe I will only reach mid-success in the physical realm but... If the race is spiritual, I win.

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Ahmed Abdelmageed
8/2/2022 11:40:16 am

Thanks for your comment DEE :)
I appreciate your outlook on this

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